All of which
makes the program’s premature growth so noteworthy.
This year
more than 500 older adults -- residents in Eskaton’s independent, assisted
living, skilled nursing and memory care communities -- will partner-up with an
equal number of students from local elementary schools. With scheduled monthly gatherings
and routine Skype session in between, the Connections are filled with reading
and writing, singing and celebrating, crafting, playing and plenty of laughing.
It is a unique learning experience -- cross-generational and very reciprocal.
Especially
gratifying and humbling to witness are the purposeful
relationships developed between the buddies. Though the Connections formally
end with the school year, for each of the past three years a number of buddies
continue to stay in touch, with the enduring attachments producing added value.
Adolph, 90,
and Connor, 10, established a sort of surrogate grandfather-grandson relationship
that exemplifies the intensity of this benefit. The two buddies stayed in touch
through the summer with letters and occasional visits by Connor and his mom to
Adolph’s Eskaton Care Center -- most recently to celebrate the older buddy’s 90th
birthday. It was a cheerful validation of the friendship.
This summer
after Adolph succumbed to his long battle with leukemia. His daughter let
Connor’s mom know that her father had his young buddy’s photo by his bedside,
and that “He adored Connor and was so thankful for having him in his life.” Sad
as Adolph’s loss is, it is an experiential addition to Connor’s and the Eskaton
Kids Connection’s life-long learning curve.
Addendum: Connor wrote a goodbye
letter to Adolph that he read at his buddy’s service. “I remember when we first
met I was a little nervous, I was worried you might be mean. After meeting you
and getting to know you, you were really nice. ... I am really going to miss
you, we had good times. ... Maybe we will get another opportunity to play
checkers, if they have them in heaven. Love, Connor (Your Jr. Buddy)”